Two Wrongs Don't Make It Right

It’s so easy for us to get caught up with our society and the way of the world that we lose sight of what is right and the basics and origin of things. In some crazy way, wrong has become more popular and “cool” than doing the right thing. It seems like people get made fun of and teased for trying to do the right and good thing instead of the bad. Above all we’re taught eye for an eye which may explain why half of our world is blind today. 

There are times when I don’t feel like doing the right thing either because I’m too lazy and it requires too much effort of me or because everyone else is doing the other way around and I don’t want to be an outcast. I desperately want to fit in. But God hasn’t called us to fit in, He has called out to stand out, and make a stand and be the light and salt of the world. Deep down inside we all have that inner voice that speaks gently to us and tries to guide is in the way of the truth. The bible refers to this as the Holy Spirit, the voice of God, the still small voice that is our stand by and tries to give us direction only if we will listen. 

If we keep ignoring Him, He is so gentle that He won’t violate our free will to have His way and eventually we grow numb to the voice and justify our wrongs by either “just because I’m not doing it this way doesn’t make it wrong,” or some other excuse that sounds good to our ears and doesn’t make us look like such a horrible person. We always have an excuse to cover our wrong actions.

We like to ask ourselves “Why do bad things happen to good people,” but I think we should start asking “why do good things happen to good people”?

Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God's will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. (Romans 12:2 NLT)

New Hair New Day

Recently, I spontaneously decided to give up my blonde hair of almost 2 years to go back to my roots, minus 2 shades lighter. I had wanted to change it up for a long time but I was afraid of two things 1. My sister who put so much time and effort lightening up my hair was going to be pissed off at me for tossing her hard work down the drain and disown me. 2. My sweet friend was not going to approve of it because she always liked me with light. 3. Hubby was going to think I’d regret it and complain to him about it. 4. I would regret it. Oops, that was four things, not two. 

It’s almost been a week with my new color and I’m still not completely used to the new look even though I’m still getting “Likes” on my Facebook picture. Thanks lovelies. I mostly did it because I was getting bored of my hair color and wanted to do something different and spontaneous and face my fears of the top four things I listed. My sister actually likes my hair this color better so she didn’t disown me. My sweet coworker still likes my hair lighter so didn’t get her approval but I still love her and I’m wondering if I liked it lighter more too. 

After I told hubby this color was just a toner and not permanent (assuming he really does know the difference) he likes this color better. I haven’t regret it but I did ask my sister if it was possible to go back to as light as I was and she said “Nope, deal with it.” I know it’s possible because she gave me a list of reasons why I shouldn’t. I can live with that. 

Hair color is important for a girl. My gosh, If our hair is not right then we are so not feeling’ it. It’s almost as bad as not having my morning coffee or PMS except every day.  Well, I do think it matches my eye color more with this color and I look a bit sophisticated. Ha! 

Osh lucked out of me having to have this conversation with him.  Love my hubster. He is always so supportive and loving toward me blond or brunette, straight or curly. Although, I remember him mentioning he likes playing with my hair when it’s straight so I try to blow dry and straighten it for him whenever I can.

Hair color is subject to change as long as there is hair on my head.  


For now, I like my hair.

His girl,

Eliza

She might be just a baby but she has already made a Big Difference

Our little munchkin has brought so much joy into our lives. She has made our lives wonderful in so many ways. Everything we do now is done with a purpose. Our lazy ass, couch potato days are over. Although we have withdrawals here and there but it can’t compare to the bundle of joy we have. When I look at her cute little face, twinkling eyes, I am reminded why the sleepless nights and selflessness is worth it.

Becoming a parent has taught me about myself, people, and life. This little person has made a huge difference in my life in just 10 months! I never knew I didn’t like responsibility until I had a baby and that was as permanent as you get and no running from it. I don’t think any book or anyone can ever prepare you for the amount of responsibility and work it takes to raise a child. We just see the cute pics and videos on Facebook and think that must be it..so cute! Yes they’re very cute but you only see that part of it and not behind the scenes, puking, dirty diapers, screaming, running around and crying that goes down. Unless you're already a parent then you know what's up and you get it!  Don't get me wrong. I’m not complaining; just stating facts. The reason why I've listed a few is to declare that even with all of that craziness SHE’S worth it.

She has taught me patience when what I really wanted to do was call it a day and drink my Armenian coffee with chocolate and read my favorite book just to not deal with it. It has taught me team work – to be on my husband’s team and not go against each other but work with each other to build a solid family that’s safe, secure and full of love for Emma to blossom in. 

Having a baby has taught be about people: family and most of all friendships. It has made me a more accepting person with others whereas before some of the things they’d say or do would drive me crazy. It might be because I really don’t have the time and I’m too busy learning to love and trying to walk in love to really care about anything else. There are days I’m sidetracked but God has His way of bringing me back on track when I astray. 

Emma has taught me what it means to love to really love unconditionally of which the knowledge and experience of has made me fall in love with God even more realizing that’s how he loves me and you.

Whatever is good and perfect comes down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow. – James 1:17 (NLT) 

Something Borrowed

I don't like movies that have a love triangle story. I didn't like Something Borrowed. But In most cases Love always wins. If it's between friendship and love, it's evident the person will usually go with love. I didn't like the fact that a lot of cheating was involved. Do these things really happen in real life? It scares me to know that they do actually.

I remember my mom telling me about one of her college friends ended up with her best friend's finace and another story just like that when we moved her from Armenia, happened to one of her best friend's son. His girlfriend's best friend knew all about him because of all the stories she shared with her friend and so she knew the way to his heart which she eventually ending up winning.

One can look at it as it was meant to be and another can say it was betrayel.

What do you think?

Happy Birthday to My Hubby!

I am the luckiest girl to be married to the sexiest, smartest and funniest man alive!

He has gone from this crazy, fun,  funny wild guy, to a crazy fun, funny wild husband and an amazing daddy. I am so proud of him for everything he is and everything he has accomplished since I met him. Wishing you the stars and the moon babe!

I love you!

Oh My Mother

The transition to becoming a mother has taken some time for me to adjust. I have gotten the hang of things: joggling, full time work, home, baby and being happily married. But, sometimes I feel the pressure that I'm not doing what I should be doing or I could be doing more.  I often think that there must be something wrong with me that drinking coffee and eating chocolate takes away my time from praying and reading the Bible. I also tend to look at others in an elavated way and want to be more like them because from the outside everyone has it so together while at home I'm running around with my big crazy hair and sometimes go to bed with my make up on because I'm just too tired to wash my face 

Today, I read the perfect article that I wanted to share a part from.

Miller-McLemore quotes medievalist scholar Elizabeth Dreyer. Parenting, Dreyer says, “is the ‘ascetic opportunity’ par excellence….A full night’s sleep, time to oneself, the freedom to come and go as one pleases – all this must be given up.”  The sacrifice of parenting is a no-brainer, but I have to admit: it leaves me feeling a little defeated.  This whiney, poopy, chaotic quotidian life is the field in which our spirituality grows and matures?  There’s not some glorious mountaintop waiting for me?

It’s still a little shocking, but perhaps the most spiritual thing I can do may be to embrace my life as a mother. Not a spiritual, metaphorical mother, but a snot-wiping, baby-chasing, diaper bag-toting mother. Because sometimes it’s not the bible stories or the lectio divina, but the Help! and thank you that a relationship is built on.

I love you all my mother friends, do you feel me?

EC

Make Up

I've either been too lazy to wear make up or I've lost my desire to wear a lot of it as I get older. Recently, I've noticed that I feel so much better with less make up on than I do with a lot. I don't know maybe it's a part of becoming a mom. Whatever it is, I'm fine with it. I don't like washing off mascara anyway and even though in my earlier posts I mentioned Olive oil is a great make up remover, I really don't feel like washing my face at nights. I still like getting dolled up for special occasions and that's probably what I'm going to use my make up for...special occasions.


EC