Honoring Your Husband: Love And Respect

 "Many men will do almost anything to gain the admiration of others. They will literally search for someone to love and respect them. Make sure that someone is you, their wife, and not someone else." (It takes two to tango)

It doesn’t matter how sarcastic or funny they are, I’m sure they have a limit to how much of ridicule and teasing they can take.

When your guy opens your car door, do you say thank you and appreciate his gesture? Or have you become so used to it that you’ve stopped acknowledging him?

When he goes out of his way to do something for the house, do you find something wrong with it no matter what or appreciate his efforts?

When we were first married, I’d get all worked up when things weren’t done a certain way aka “my way” around our place and even though my hubby would help me with everything, I’d point things out and try to correct him. It took about a year or so to stop and really acknowledge and appreciate the fact that he is even trying and wanting to help. I’ve gotten better at letting go and letting him do things the way he does as long as it gets the job done.

As wives, we should practice being thankful and showing appreciation with words and in action  deliberately and intentionally. Many people mistake the continual thanking and compliment as being over rated and phony but really how else would we show our appreciation? I agree Actions speaker louder than words;  But I also think if you can have both, why have one without the other. They go hand in hand.

Wives, Love and respect your husbands. The results are far worth it ;) 

I asked my hubby about it and here is what he'd had to say : 
 

"Even if he only does the dishes and runs off with the guys or to his cave. You should be ecstatic that he doesn't fit the stereotype and thank him. The encouragement will actually motivate him to do more or to ask what he can help with."

Ephesians 5:33 “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”

Blue Like Jazz

I was lucky to go to the Screening of Blue Like Jazz last night and get to chit chat with the man himself, Donald Miller. They did a fantastic job with the movie and highly recommend it. 

Here are some of my favorite quotes from the book “Blue Like Jazz:”

“I never liked jazz music because jazz music doesn't resolve. But I was outside the Bagdad Theater in Portland one night when I saw a man playing the saxophone. I stood there for fifteen minutes, and he never opened his eyes.

After that I liked jazz music.

Sometimes you have to watch somebody love something before you can love it yourself. It is as if they are showing you the way.

I used to not like God because God didn't resolve. But that was before any of this happened.”

“Believing in God is as much like falling in love as it is making a decision. Love is both something that happens to you and something you decide upon.”

“ I will give you this, my love, and I will not bargain or barter any longer. I will love you, as sure as He has loved me. I will discover what I can discover and though you remain a mystery, save God's own knowledge, what I disclose of you I will keep in the warmest chamber of my heart, the very chamber where God has stowed Himself in me. And I will do this to my death, and to death it may bring me. I will love you like God, because of God, mighted by the power of God. I will stop expecting your love, demanding you love, trading for your love, gaming for your love. I will simply love. I am giving myself to you, and tomorrow I will do it again. I suppose the clock itself will wear thin its time before I am ended at this altar of dying and dying again. God risked Himself on me. I will risk myself on you. And together, we will learn to love, and perhaps then, and only then, understand this gravity that drew Him, unto us.”

“Dying for something is easy because it is associated with glory. Living for something is the hard thing. Living for something extends beyond fashion, glory, or recognition. We live for what we believe.”

“I always thought the Bible was more of a salad thing, you know, but it isn't. It's a chocolate thing.”

“I am something of a recluse by nature. I am that cordless screwdriver that has to charge for twenty hours to earn ten minutes use. I need that much downtime. ”

“The most difficult lie I have ever contended with is this: life is a story about me.”

“If we are not willing to wake up in the morning and die to ourselves, perhaps we should ask ourselves whether or not we are really following Jesus.”

“Everybody wants to be fancy and new. Nobody wants to be themselves. I mean, maybe people want to be themselves, but they want to be different, with different clothes or shorter hair or less fat. It's a fact. If there was a guy who just liked being himself and didn't want to be anybody else, that guy would be the most different guy in the world and everybody would want to be him.”

“I think the things we want most in life, the things we think will set us free, are not the thing we need.”

The  official trailer

http://www.bluelikejazzthemovie.com/

Two Wrongs Don't Make It Right

It’s so easy for us to get caught up with our society and the way of the world that we lose sight of what is right and the basics and origin of things. In some crazy way, wrong has become more popular and “cool” than doing the right thing. It seems like people get made fun of and teased for trying to do the right and good thing instead of the bad. Above all we’re taught eye for an eye which may explain why half of our world is blind today. 

There are times when I don’t feel like doing the right thing either because I’m too lazy and it requires too much effort of me or because everyone else is doing the other way around and I don’t want to be an outcast. I desperately want to fit in. But God hasn’t called us to fit in, He has called out to stand out, and make a stand and be the light and salt of the world. Deep down inside we all have that inner voice that speaks gently to us and tries to guide is in the way of the truth. The bible refers to this as the Holy Spirit, the voice of God, the still small voice that is our stand by and tries to give us direction only if we will listen. 

If we keep ignoring Him, He is so gentle that He won’t violate our free will to have His way and eventually we grow numb to the voice and justify our wrongs by either “just because I’m not doing it this way doesn’t make it wrong,” or some other excuse that sounds good to our ears and doesn’t make us look like such a horrible person. We always have an excuse to cover our wrong actions.

We like to ask ourselves “Why do bad things happen to good people,” but I think we should start asking “why do good things happen to good people”?

Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God's will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. (Romans 12:2 NLT)

New Hair New Day

Recently, I spontaneously decided to give up my blonde hair of almost 2 years to go back to my roots, minus 2 shades lighter. I had wanted to change it up for a long time but I was afraid of two things 1. My sister who put so much time and effort lightening up my hair was going to be pissed off at me for tossing her hard work down the drain and disown me. 2. My sweet friend was not going to approve of it because she always liked me with light. 3. Hubby was going to think I’d regret it and complain to him about it. 4. I would regret it. Oops, that was four things, not two. 

It’s almost been a week with my new color and I’m still not completely used to the new look even though I’m still getting “Likes” on my Facebook picture. Thanks lovelies. I mostly did it because I was getting bored of my hair color and wanted to do something different and spontaneous and face my fears of the top four things I listed. My sister actually likes my hair this color better so she didn’t disown me. My sweet coworker still likes my hair lighter so didn’t get her approval but I still love her and I’m wondering if I liked it lighter more too. 

After I told hubby this color was just a toner and not permanent (assuming he really does know the difference) he likes this color better. I haven’t regret it but I did ask my sister if it was possible to go back to as light as I was and she said “Nope, deal with it.” I know it’s possible because she gave me a list of reasons why I shouldn’t. I can live with that. 

Hair color is important for a girl. My gosh, If our hair is not right then we are so not feeling’ it. It’s almost as bad as not having my morning coffee or PMS except every day.  Well, I do think it matches my eye color more with this color and I look a bit sophisticated. Ha! 

Osh lucked out of me having to have this conversation with him.  Love my hubster. He is always so supportive and loving toward me blond or brunette, straight or curly. Although, I remember him mentioning he likes playing with my hair when it’s straight so I try to blow dry and straighten it for him whenever I can.

Hair color is subject to change as long as there is hair on my head.  


For now, I like my hair.

His girl,

Eliza

She might be just a baby but she has already made a Big Difference

Our little munchkin has brought so much joy into our lives. She has made our lives wonderful in so many ways. Everything we do now is done with a purpose. Our lazy ass, couch potato days are over. Although we have withdrawals here and there but it can’t compare to the bundle of joy we have. When I look at her cute little face, twinkling eyes, I am reminded why the sleepless nights and selflessness is worth it.

Becoming a parent has taught me about myself, people, and life. This little person has made a huge difference in my life in just 10 months! I never knew I didn’t like responsibility until I had a baby and that was as permanent as you get and no running from it. I don’t think any book or anyone can ever prepare you for the amount of responsibility and work it takes to raise a child. We just see the cute pics and videos on Facebook and think that must be it..so cute! Yes they’re very cute but you only see that part of it and not behind the scenes, puking, dirty diapers, screaming, running around and crying that goes down. Unless you're already a parent then you know what's up and you get it!  Don't get me wrong. I’m not complaining; just stating facts. The reason why I've listed a few is to declare that even with all of that craziness SHE’S worth it.

She has taught me patience when what I really wanted to do was call it a day and drink my Armenian coffee with chocolate and read my favorite book just to not deal with it. It has taught me team work – to be on my husband’s team and not go against each other but work with each other to build a solid family that’s safe, secure and full of love for Emma to blossom in. 

Having a baby has taught be about people: family and most of all friendships. It has made me a more accepting person with others whereas before some of the things they’d say or do would drive me crazy. It might be because I really don’t have the time and I’m too busy learning to love and trying to walk in love to really care about anything else. There are days I’m sidetracked but God has His way of bringing me back on track when I astray. 

Emma has taught me what it means to love to really love unconditionally of which the knowledge and experience of has made me fall in love with God even more realizing that’s how he loves me and you.

Whatever is good and perfect comes down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow. – James 1:17 (NLT)