When I asked my husband what has surprised him about married life he said “The stereo types aren't true if you don't believe in them. They actually become a funnier joke cuz they are not practiced in our relationship. "freedom, outings, speaking my mind, sex etc"
We get the impression from our society, tv and even from some of our well meaning friends and family that marriage is the end of your life. When I was planning my wedding, I had a few people pat me on the back as if they were feeling sorry for me. It’s not the end of your life, it’s the beginning of a happy ending.
I think a lot of times these stereotypes with some based on true facts can be a heavy cloud hovering on the relationship. You don’t need to accept it as your own. We joke about it all the time but refuse to fall into that category.
If there are issues when after you get married, it probably stems from something before the marriage. A lot of times just like some married couples think that having a baby could save their marriage, they make the same mistake thinking that getting married may solve the issues they have while dating.
If you can't resolve problems with compromise, talk about issues, have fun while and enjoy life while you are dating. Getting married to fix those issue will only put you in a worse situation and make things harder. That's when you become the Stereo Type and your ending won't be happy.
To be happily married is to make a decision to love and be there for the other person every day.
With God, all things are possible.
El & Osh
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