I am not for abuse nor do I think should it be taken lightly but I do believe in forgivenss and true repentence. A lot of times we become professional apologizers but the fact is no one cares how many times you say "I'm sorry" what people actually care about is what you do after you say "I'm sorry" Do you repeat the same mistake? Do you genuinely take the necessary steps needed to try to correct the mess you made. Sometimes it takes time especially if the person is in the public eye. Celebrity or not, that person who just failed is human. Those who are so judgemental toward him, they have a good reason but I don't think they should continue hating on the guy. He deserves a second chance. Besides there are so many more people struggling with the same problem if they see that by coming out or seeking help won't give them hope they might as well continue living in the dark. However if they see that they can get help and change for the better, Chris Brown could be a good role model again.
Below are some facts and info about verbal and physical abuse. Personally, I think verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. You can wound a person with one word just as bad as one slap. What do we do with the ones who cause us some much pain by the way they speak to us?
http://helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
Here is the specific link to Trauma and Abuse http://helpguide.org/topics/trauma_abuse.htm
Another genre of abuse that I feel strongly about is child abuse and that is the worst becuse a child is too vulnerable to even try to defend themselves. If you think it's not ok to hit an adult why do you spank?
http://www.safechild.org/childabuse2.htm
I still haven't seen his performance from last night's BET Awards but I'm looking forward to watching it tonight. He is an awesome performer.
Eliza
June 28, 2010
June 10, 2010
The Knot
No one could have prepared me for how awesome marriage is and how working on it doesn’t have to be hard.
When I asked my husband what has surprised him about married life he said “The stereo types aren't true if you don't believe in them. They actually become a funnier joke cuz they are not practiced in our relationship. "freedom, outings, speaking my mind, sex etc"
We get the impression from our society, tv and even from some of our well meaning friends and family that marriage is the end of your life. When I was planning my wedding, I had a few people pat me on the back as if they were feeling sorry for me. It’s not the end of your life, it’s the beginning of a happy ending.
I think a lot of times these stereotypes with some based on true facts can be a heavy cloud hovering on the relationship. You don’t need to accept it as your own. We joke about it all the time but refuse to fall into that category.
If there are issues when after you get married, it probably stems from something before the marriage. A lot of times just like some married couples think that having a baby could save their marriage, they make the same mistake thinking that getting married may solve the issues they have while dating.
If you can't resolve problems with compromise, talk about issues, have fun while and enjoy life while you are dating. Getting married to fix those issue will only put you in a worse situation and make things harder. That's when you become the Stereo Type and your ending won't be happy.
To be happily married is to make a decision to love and be there for the other person every day.
With God, all things are possible.
El & Osh
When I asked my husband what has surprised him about married life he said “The stereo types aren't true if you don't believe in them. They actually become a funnier joke cuz they are not practiced in our relationship. "freedom, outings, speaking my mind, sex etc"
We get the impression from our society, tv and even from some of our well meaning friends and family that marriage is the end of your life. When I was planning my wedding, I had a few people pat me on the back as if they were feeling sorry for me. It’s not the end of your life, it’s the beginning of a happy ending.
I think a lot of times these stereotypes with some based on true facts can be a heavy cloud hovering on the relationship. You don’t need to accept it as your own. We joke about it all the time but refuse to fall into that category.
If there are issues when after you get married, it probably stems from something before the marriage. A lot of times just like some married couples think that having a baby could save their marriage, they make the same mistake thinking that getting married may solve the issues they have while dating.
If you can't resolve problems with compromise, talk about issues, have fun while and enjoy life while you are dating. Getting married to fix those issue will only put you in a worse situation and make things harder. That's when you become the Stereo Type and your ending won't be happy.
To be happily married is to make a decision to love and be there for the other person every day.
With God, all things are possible.
El & Osh
June 08, 2010
Bachelorette Party
Both last year and this year we went to Adriatic Viall of Palm Springs with the girls for a Bachelorette Party.
Last year was mine which my sister in law organized and found this peaceful beauitufl place right by their downtown. http://www.adriaticvillaofpalmsprings.com/ . This year my cousin organized hers at the same place. It is just such a fun place to be with your girls. The rooms are very spacious. The one we stayed at this year was a Mediterran style room which even had a jaquzzi inside of the bathrooms. I definetly recommend Adriatic Villa.
Hairy Situation as adapted from Healthy Bitch Daily
I think a lot of times when something is aching or feeling wrong in our body, we go for a blood test or our doctor sends us to get one. There are specific things that the doctor checks off on that blood test sheet for them to specifically look for-but even then it's not everything. When in doubt it's always better to get your hair tested.
When you get your blood taken by a physician or specialist, it only reveals 24 hours worth of your body’s chemistry. But at the root of your hair, six weeks of your body’s chemistry gets locked into your hair shaft as it grows from your scalp.
Feeling tired or burnt out? Maybe you’ve got adrenal fatigue. Since minerals such as potassium, zinc, magnesium, iron and calcium show up in your results, a hair analyst can identify an imbalance of minerals as an instigator of low energy, as well as which gland is weak. These glands may be tiny, but they are responsible for about 100 bodily tasks, including keeping your energy, hormones and sugar balanced.
Wonder if the lead in your lipstick or your hair dye is in your body? Or maybe why you’re setting off metal detectors like a damn lost treasure at sea? Too much mercury - Cool it on the sushi. If so, Meg puts you on the metal detox program to support your body in getting rid of toxic elements; email support keeps you on target.
You don't need to worry about a bald spot or wearing a a pony tail. Just cut underneath your hair in the back of your head about 1/2-inch in length.
When you get your blood taken by a physician or specialist, it only reveals 24 hours worth of your body’s chemistry. But at the root of your hair, six weeks of your body’s chemistry gets locked into your hair shaft as it grows from your scalp.
Feeling tired or burnt out? Maybe you’ve got adrenal fatigue. Since minerals such as potassium, zinc, magnesium, iron and calcium show up in your results, a hair analyst can identify an imbalance of minerals as an instigator of low energy, as well as which gland is weak. These glands may be tiny, but they are responsible for about 100 bodily tasks, including keeping your energy, hormones and sugar balanced.
Wonder if the lead in your lipstick or your hair dye is in your body? Or maybe why you’re setting off metal detectors like a damn lost treasure at sea? Too much mercury - Cool it on the sushi. If so, Meg puts you on the metal detox program to support your body in getting rid of toxic elements; email support keeps you on target.
You don't need to worry about a bald spot or wearing a a pony tail. Just cut underneath your hair in the back of your head about 1/2-inch in length.
June 03, 2010
Rehab for the Bridezilla
I looked up Urban Dictionary for the definition of a Bridezilla: One ridiculous spoiled bitch that thinks she is the center of the universe, just because her "show" (the wedding) is 18 months from now. Everyone else in the world has to drop everything and come running in this prime-donna's mind. The marriage will not last more than a couple of years,if the groom to be is lucky.
"Man, get a load of that bridezilla. We should warn him that he will never have another blow job after getting married."
I've been wanting to blog about Bridezillas but been waiting for June to come around and the wedding season is finally here!
Speaking for my own experience a year ago, I personally just wanted to get the wedding over with and because I was having a wedding I knew I just wanted to have a good time. It's normal to be anxious, nervous, happy, overwhelmed and even a bit crazy, but don't drive the people around you crazy too!
Here are some tips on how to unbridezilla yourself:
"Man, get a load of that bridezilla. We should warn him that he will never have another blow job after getting married."
I've been wanting to blog about Bridezillas but been waiting for June to come around and the wedding season is finally here!
Speaking for my own experience a year ago, I personally just wanted to get the wedding over with and because I was having a wedding I knew I just wanted to have a good time. It's normal to be anxious, nervous, happy, overwhelmed and even a bit crazy, but don't drive the people around you crazy too!
- You're the bride, not the drill sergeant. Stop telling people what to do, screaming, shouting and stomping your feet. No one wants to deal with you.
- Everyone will have something to say about everything. Stop the bitchin and Get over it. Do what you & your hubby want.
- Your extravagant wedding won't determine the quality of your marriage. Less is more.
- If you have the money, please go all out but don't expect your guests to pay for it.
- Only your inner circle really cares about your wedding. The rest come for the free booze, food, to show off their designer dresses, dance the night away and if lucky, hook up with someone.
- Your bridesmaids are not your slaves. Don't make them wear ugly dresses. Be considerate and let them go with what they're comfortable in-that way they'll like being your bridesmaid.
- Not everything will be perfect. If something doesn't go to plan the day of, it's too late. Just brush it off instead of stressing about.
- Lastly it's only going to last 24 hours. Why kill yourself, sever ties, and hurt others for something that is only going to last probably 16 hours of your life.
- Look at the wedding as a party to have fun, dance, and to show off your new spouse.
- Don't spend thousands of dollars on the cake. How much better is a $6K gonna taste??? Save the money and donate it to charity or save it for the honeymoon!
Too Hot for Work?
Do you dress up to work? Or it's like eh whatever, it's just work I don't need to get all dolled up?
Well apparently someone got fired for dressing up, or I should say dressing hot to work.
I was listening to Ryan Seacrest this morning and he was talking about a CitiBank Employee in New York City who got fired because she was too hot for the job. http://www.myfoxchicago.com/dpp/news/national/debrahlee-lorenzana-citibank-fired-sexy-20100602
All I gotta say is the silky shirt she has on in the picture is definetly not work appropriate.
Well apparently someone got fired for dressing up, or I should say dressing hot to work.
I was listening to Ryan Seacrest this morning and he was talking about a CitiBank Employee in New York City who got fired because she was too hot for the job. http://www.myfoxchicago.com/dpp/news/national/debrahlee-lorenzana-citibank-fired-sexy-20100602
All I gotta say is the silky shirt she has on in the picture is definetly not work appropriate.
June 01, 2010
Great New Fad for Bachelor Partys
I'm really going to encourage this from here on out. CAMPING, WILDERNESS, REAL MALE BONDING.
No more of this Vegas Bullshit. Cock teasing, tempting, unfulfilling, cheap thrill, that usually leads to trouble.
Let's push for a new Revolution, the open air, the freedom, the getaway and the adventure.
Camping and the great outdoors recommend it to your friends you'll like it more than Vegas.
No more of this Vegas Bullshit. Cock teasing, tempting, unfulfilling, cheap thrill, that usually leads to trouble.
Let's push for a new Revolution, the open air, the freedom, the getaway and the adventure.
Camping and the great outdoors recommend it to your friends you'll like it more than Vegas.
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